1. Feeling Alone

Feeling alone can definitely impact our mental health after a break up. 

Right after my most recent break up I felt an overwhelming sense of abandonment.

The feeling faded after a couple of weeks.

In the meantime, I made sure to connect with friends, family and even downloaded a few networking apps to feel connected with others.

Staying connected helped me process the break up and in turn, improved my mental health.


Bumble: make friends

2. Expenses

Some added expenses that may be coming your way include

  • Groceries
  • Child support
  • Spousal support/alimony
  • Phone bills
  • Internet
  • Rent/mortgage
  • Electric
  • Auto loan
  • Heating
  • Car/home owners’ insurance,
  • Water
  • Garbage

Here is a free expense tracker that might help


3. Kids

It goes without saying that children make a break up more complicated.

I personally have faced a horrific custody battle, started paying over 600$/month in support and still do.

I even lost physical custody of my son. I experienced what many would consider the worst-case scenario.

After everything, I still stand by breaking it off with a person who wasn’t for me.

You will also have the responsibility of being emotionally available for your kiddos & your schedule with them will likely change as well.


4. Income

Along with added expenses, you may also lose a second income you grew accustom to.

If so, you may have to compromise on vacations, reduce the amount of take out, and be more mindful of any lavish spending.



5. Getting Spooked

If you’ll be living alone the normal noises of your home will likely become much more terrifying.

My comfort level was much different being in an apartment vs an isolated house… without any witnesses around.

You may want to invest in cameras, additional locks, and some extra support to make you feel more comfortable.


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6. Time for Friends

On a more positive note, you’ll likely have extra time for chats on the phone with friends.

Perhaps going out OR maybe friends will be more comfortable coming over and hanging out now that your partner isn’t in the picture.


7. Fitness

Is it time for the post break up body?

For some, the realization that you’ll be intimate with another partner sparks the motivation you’ve been searching for.

Walking & chatting on the phone is not only exercise but enjoyable and connecting with others.

The same can be true for joining a gym or work out class.

Don’t overlook the powerful positive effects of exercise on our mental health after a break up. 



Mental health and physical health are equally important components of overall health


8. Support System

Whether good or bad, you’ll quickly find out who is going to be a support for you and who isn’t.

Sometimes we lose friends or even family. This can take a toll on our mental health.

There are going to be people who don’t agree with your choices and you’ll likely hear about it at some point.

Remind yourself that honoring your wants and needs is never wrong.



9. Identity

Your identity will be altered.

This is especially true when an unhealthy relationship ends.

We lose aspects the life we knew during a break up.

Although at first it’s scary cutting ties with your partner, in the long run it’s beneficial to your mental health to leave a toxic relationship.

Try to view this as an opportunity to fill in the blanks with anything that aligns better with you.

You will likely meet new people, have different hobbies, and form a new routine.  

Learning about yourself is fun and exciting!

fearless, break up, breakup, you


Our mental health impacts how we think, feel, and act.

10. Dating

Well, DUH. Ok so, you may not want to date immediately, but eventually the time will come!

When you notice that you feel whole again and in a good place with your mental health after a break up you might want to see how it feels to meet some new people and even try dating.

Dating will bring a lot of things to light.

I’ve learned TONS about myself through relationships with others.


Tinder for dating

Along with learning how to mesh with yet another person you will likely learn a lot other things.

I’ve ran a half marathon, became quite the fisherwoman, & have gained an amazing travel partner; all because of relationships (including some that have ended). 


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