10 Simple Steps To Success
how to create your dream life
Hi, I’m Britney. About four years ago I realized I was really unhappy. I knew I had to make some changes.
I imagined the best version of myself reaching into my bleak life, grabbing my hand and yanking me to the other side; the happy side.
A lot has changed since then… I won’t lie to you; I made some hard choices.
I let people down, ended friendships and even my marriage.
I went to therapy and started attending groups for people from dysfunctional families.
I read books, journaled, moved out, & took a different job.
All of these changes slowly led me back to myself & allowed me to achieve my version of success.
Here are 10 simple steps to success you can try ↓
1 | Remove Barriers
Take time to imagine what you want. Write it down if it helps.
Now ask yourself, what is preventing you from having those things?
Take the time to constructively work towards eliminating the barriers to those things.
2 | Create SOLID Goals
A goal should be SOLID:
- Limited in time
That’s right, I created my own acronym for it.
[I explain it more here → How to Live Your Dream Life: Simple Steps To Success]
A lot of people make goals that are too big, too vague & last too long.
3 | Map Out Your Trajectory
Often our success or our “dream life” consists of many different things.
Write them down and make a timeline of when each one could realistically be accomplished.
Having a timeline often motivates people to begin action.
I made an example page and blank page in the workbook I made but drawing one out on paper is easy too and can be fun.
4 | Find An Accountability Partner
Someone who is like minded and aware of your goals is a good tool. Choose someone that you view as a competitor and someone who is facing the same obstacles.
You can help each other stay inspired, motivated and provide insight on how to keep going.
“The big lesson in life, baby, is never be scared of anyone or anything.”
5 | Use Visuals
Create a vision board of your dream life. Include different pictures, quotes, and people that motivate you.
This serves as a visual reminder and you’ll be in an environment that will inspire you to work towards the life you want.
The workbook has some good quotes you can add and places you can find accountability partners.
6 | Share Your Vision With Supportive People
There are going to be people who don’t agree with your way of doing things & that’s alright.
“What if one thing resonates with everybody, but it’s not the same for anybody?”
If you feel yourself deflating after you told a person about something,
let that be a que that the person isn’t being supportive.
There will always be a person that claims to have the right answer, but you will always have the BEST answers when it comes to your life.
7 | Research
Knowledge is power.
Be resourceful, read, watch YouTube, talk to neighbors, read Reddit, but always consider your source.
Here’s a quote;
“You’re only as smart as you are educated.”
That doesn’t mean that if you want to be fit you need to get a degree in kinesiology.
A lot of people don’t even agree with the quote, but the point of it is; education lets a person use their intelligence.
Education = knowledge, skills, training & understanding.
Don’t be afraid to learn.
8 | Surround Yourself With Like Minded People
Who you spend time with makes a HUGE difference in how you operate.
Sometimes it’s worth thinking about who we hang out with and considering how they impact our life.
What are they doing for you?
How do they influence you?
What principles do they live by?
Do they add to your life or take away?
9 | Acknowledge Your Fears
Our amygdala considers anything that requires us to adjust, react, focus, or enter uncharted territory as danger, and creates fear.
But, fear can rob you from experiences, and experience is constructive & necessary for growth.
Explore the worst case scenario & consider if it’s realistic, or even relevant.
If it is; how can you prepare?
Fear is a powerful force, but not always in your best interest.
(I’ll talk more about fear and provide plenty of room for you to explore it in the workbook.)
A blank sheet of paper will work great too!
10 | Drop The Shame
The thing is, we’re all human. The nature of shame asks to be hidden and that invisible force can prevent you from progressing.
Shame is something that effects so many people.
I also elaborate on shame in the workbook and have space for you to explore how it impacts you.
Journaling can be a good start but if you’re still feeling lost there are people who know a lot about emotions.
You can learn about emotions just like you can learn how to tie your shoes.
If you’re like me and came from a family that avoids them at all costs, gaining emotional intelligence might do you wonders.
Therapists are an obvious choice but organized groups can be another great and FREE option; I put a link to one I have used at the end of this post.
↓ Tools For Success: Live Your Dream Life ↓
I also created a Downloadable 20+ Page Live Your Dream Life Workbook for $4.99
The workbook has pages for every strategy I’ve listed along with more
- A Monthly calendar
- A Weekly calendar
- A Trajectory map
- Lots of inspiration
- Person based writing prompts
If you want to live your dream life, take some steps to get you there.
A non profit organization that offers TONS of free support.
They have virtual individualized therapy and support groups for
- Eating disorders
- Sexual trauma
- Grief and loss
- Self esteem
- Self care
- Men’s support groups
They have one on one services and group/workshops. I have joined many of their PTSD groups. I always felt safe & talking to other people that deal with shame was pretty enlightening.
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