76 Self Sabotage Quotes

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76 Brutal Self Sabotage Quotes



“In order to understand, I destroyed myself.”
Fernando Pessoa



“Having a low opinion of yourself is not ‘modesty.’ It’s self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not ‘egotism.’ It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success.”
Bobbe Sommer“



The quickest path to self-destruction is to push away the people you love.”
Cassia Leo, Pieces of You


“I understood myself only after I destroyed myself. And only in the process of fixing myself, did I know who I really was.”
Sade Andria Zabala



“If one looks with a cold eye at the mess man has made of history, it is difficult to avoid the conclusion that he has been afflicted by some built-in mental disorder which drives him towards self-destruction.”
Arthur Koestler



“One of the greatest evils is the foolishness of a good man. For the giving man to withhold helping someone in order to first assure personal fortification is not selfish, but to elude needless self-destruction; martyrdom is only practical when the thought is to die, else a good man faces the consequence of digging a hole from which he cannot escape, and truly helps no one in the long run.”
Mike Norton



“I have my own matches and sulphur, and I’ll make my own hell.”
Rudyard Kipling



“Unless we learn to know ourselves, we run the danger of destroying ourselves.”
Ja A. Jahannes



“I believe that no one can harm you but yourself.”
Elbert Hubbard



“There is stability in self-destruction, in prolonging sadness as a means of escaping abstractions like happiness. Rock bottom is a surprisingly comfortable place to lay your head. Looking up from the depths of another low often seems a lot safer than wondering when you’ll fall again. Falling feels awful.”
Kris Kidd



“I felt a strange delight in causing my decay.”
Robert Browning



“Your worst sin is that you have destroyed and betrayed yourself for nothing.”
Fyodor Dostoyevsky



“Never saw off the branch you are on, unless you are being hanged from it.”
Stanislaw Jerzy Lec



“If you’re losing your soul and you know it, then you’ve still got a soul left to lose.”
Charles Bukowski



“Drunkenness is temporary suicide.”
Bertrand Russell



“Often it is the most deserving people who cannot help loving those who destroy them.”
Hermann Hesse



“Procrastination is the seed of self destruction.”

Matthew Burton



“What nourishes me, destroys me.”
Christopher Marlowe



“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly – you usually don’t use it at all. It uses you.”
Eckhart Tolle



“You’re dealing with people who are suiciding slowly. You’ve got to get to the bottom of what is psychologically motivating them to self-destruct.”
Jillian Michaels



“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.”




“Do not kick against the pricks, you will hurt yourself.”



“Find what you love and let it kill you.”

Charles Bukowski



“Every member serves the whole body, either to its health or to its detriment.”
Dietrich Bonhoeffer



“We are what we believe we are.”

C. S. Lewis



“That which offends you only weakens you.”
Wayne Dyer



“Self-control is strength. Calmness is mastery. You have to get to a point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Don’t allow others to control the direction of your life. Don’t allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.”

Morgan Freeman



“Don’t meet troubles half-way.”

English proverb



“Maybe self-improvement isn’t the answer, maybe self-destruction is the answer.”
Chuck Palahniuk



Guilt is really the reverse side of the coin of pride. Guilt aims at self-destruction, and pride aims at the destruction of others.
Bill W.



“Frustration, discouragement, and depression mean you are working against yourself.”
Jaggi Vasudev



“The human body is not a thing or substance, given, but a continuous creation. The human body is an energy system which is never a complete structure; never static; is in perpetual inner self-construction and self-destruction; we destroy in order to make it new.”
Norman O. Brown



“There are seeds of self-destruction in all of us that will bear only unhappiness if allowed to grow.”

Dorothea Brande



“A separation sociology produces a separation pathology, pathological behaviors of self-destruction, engaged in individually and collectively, and producing suffering, conflict, violence, and death by our own hands.”

Neale Donald Walsch



“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”
Brené Brown



“Great self-destruction follows upon unfounded fear.”

Ursula K. Le Guin



“The soul journey inward is when we are invited to cast aside beliefs and behaviors that no longer serve us and release all tendencies toward victimhood, stagnation, passivity, and self-destruction that keep us disempowered or cause frustration and suffering to ourselves and others. This is no easy task and one in which we can use all the divine support possible to help us on our way. It is a time to pray.”

Sonia Choquette



“Forgiveness is not about forgetting, Mack. It is about letting go of another person’s throat. Forgiveness does not establish relationship. It is to release you from something that will eat you alive, that will destroy your joy and your ability to love fully and openly.”
William Paul Young



“Even when you self-destruct, you want to fail more, lose more, die more than others, stink more than others.”
Don Delillo




Self Sabotage Quotes from The Big Red Book

Many of us were born into a hostile world. Instinctively, we learned to sense danger. We were caught in the family story and played our part to survive. We couldn’t be our genuine selves-who we were meant to be. We molded a personality that could change at the drop of a hat, adapting to any situation. It took a lot of skill to survive, and our false self-kept us safe in childhood.



We stay in an abusive relationship because they resemble how we were raised.



Talking about our feelings is a risk; however, this is a risk worth taking because the rewards are great.



In acting out, I was screaming when I could not voice my pain.



All bottoms have meaning, and all bottoms can be a starting point for a new way of life. There is hope. Healing is possible.



Yet, our children and relationships were still mired in our dysfunction. We recreated the abandonment and loss of our own childhood.



We can talk, trust, and feel instead of control, isolate, and fume.


Without knowing the meaning of the abandonment encoded within the past, the adult child is doomed to repeat it. The unexamined past becomes the future of the next generation.



When we look at the exact nature of our wrongs, we see that we have harmed ourselves based on our sense of being unacceptable, inferior, or lost.



We learned to keep our feelings down as children and kept them buried as adults.



We cannot reach the level of spiritual growth that we are seeking by blaming sick people.



In childhood our identity is formed by the reflection we see in the eyes of the people around us.


A spiritual bypass means that the person is attempting to avoid the pain that can come with working through the trauma and neglect from childhood. In some cases, the person attempts to jump ahead in the recovery process without going through the entire process. This path invariably fails or leads to dissatisfying results.



An adult child is someone whose actions and decisions as an adult are guided by childhood experiences grounded in self-doubt or fear.



Change has been difficult in my life, but absolutely essential.



Being adult children, we have learned to endure colossal amounts of abuse and aloneness that only we understand.



If we overstate our wrongs and beat ourselves up, we tend to drift into an attitude of martyrdom, or we assume the victim posture.



Denial is the glue that hold together a dysfunctional home, family secrets, ignoring feelings, and predictable chaos are part of a dysfunctional family system.



What many adult children have described as love or intimacy was actually codependence or rigid control.



Self-sufficiency is covering up a fear of rejection which they think could come if they ask for help.



We learned to block or deny our feelings as children to protect ourselves from our unhealthy family.



We have a high tolerance for workplace dysfunction and tend to stick it out in an unhappy job because we lack the self-esteem to leave.



Body shame is not reserved for our weight or shape.



We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.



Before we can serve on another, we must first be willing to love and serve ourselves.



We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.



We must shatter the illusion that we can reason out a painless solution.



One of the keys to being restored to sanity involves surrendering our need to harm ourselves or to run from our feelings.



By moving beyond survival, we realize that lost dreams or wishes can reemerge.



Shame blinds us to the fact that love is inside each of us waiting to be discovered.


You are not a defective character. You have defects of character.



The more we let go, the stronger our boundaries become.



We were taught to doubt ourselves so it became natural to believe that we are wrong, defective, or uninformed.



We do not have to participate in their dysfunction. We are free to live our own lives.



Through the first 18 years of our lives, our families had 6,570 days to shame, belittle, ignore, criticize, or manipulate us during the formative years of our being.



Learn to validate yourself by becoming your own loving parent.



By transforming our people-pleasing manner, we do not stop caring about others. However, we stop going over the line to ensure that we are never abandoned.


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Personality Disorders are More Likely to Self Sabotage


Cluster A Personality Disorders

Social withdrawal or awkwardness driven by distorted thinking

Paranoid Personality Disorder

Schizoid Personality Disorder

Schizotypal Personality Disorder



Cluster B Personality Disorders

Dramatic, impulsive, and emotional thinking/behavior

Antisocial Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder

Histrionic Personality Disorder

Narcissistic Personality Disorder



Cluster C Personality Disorders

Driven by fear

Avoidant Personality Disorder

Dependent Personality Disorder

Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder



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